By Andrea
Being frugal is like eating better or exercising - you know you should do it, you know you’d probably feel better if you did it, you know you’re just setting yourself up for big problems down the road if you don’t do it …
… but it’s just no fun.
It’s no fun, that is, until you actually start doing it, stay with it awhile and see some particular result that makes continuing not only preferable but actually enjoyable.
The challenge in money (as in health) is to find the motivation that makes sense to you. If your family has a history of heart disease and you’ve seen your parents and grandparents die at an early age, that might be your motivation. I would have to find some other reason because my family has no such history, and so it goes - everyone has their personal reason for making the choices they make. Finding your motivation to spend less is the same.
In the interest of helping you find your frugality impetus, here are a few that I came up with:
The Frugal Retiree - This is the one that most personal finance folks focus on - “if you don’t save enough while you’re working, you’re going to have to live in Social Security and work as a greeter in Wal-Mart and eat cat food and cut all of your prescription pills in half and leave your kids with the expense of burying you and paying off your debts! Arrrrgh!!”
For some people it works just fine but for most it’s too remote and scary to think about. Why stress about the future when the present is freaking you out all by itself? The bills have to be paid NOW, life is meant to be enjoyed NOW, everyone in the family all dies of heart disease by the age of 50 anyway, so why worry? Still, the Frugal Retiree lives in all of us because hopefully we will all live long enough to enjoy a retirement (second childhood), but there’s no point to just having money when you retire if you don’t know what you want to do in retirement so it’s usually more of a secondary motivator. Your primary motivators might be …
The Frugal Philanthropist - The frugal philanthropist wants to be able to support organizations and charities that mirror his or her values, and that can’t be done if every penny of income is spent on daily bills. Cutting expenses so that more money can be devoted to important issues, whatever those might be for any particular person, is not seen as a burden so much as a willing sacrifice.
Since the definition of “philanthropist” actually includes actions and money, it can be broken down further into The Frugal Activist and The Frugal Humanitarian.
The Frugal Activist - If you work 80 hours a week to pay your bills, how much time do you have to commit to your favorite cause? You can’t go to protests, you can’t canvas, you can’t participate in event planning, you can’t take time off to go help build houses for Habitat or schools in impoverished nations. All you can do is read with envy about others who somehow have the funds to do those things.
The Frugal Humanitarian - Similar to the activist, having a humanitarian motivation might mean that you refuse to buy items made in sweatshops, which means that in many cases you just go without. Or, if you take the more direct approach, how much time can you devote to a cause like being a mentor to a child, teaching adult literacy, working in a soup kitchen, going on volunteer missions or other activities like that if you have to work 10 hour days and then come home and manage a household? And speaking of managing a household …
The Frugal Stay-At-Home - If your family believes that it is valuable for one parent to stay home with children, especially if you feel the need to homeschool, frugality is key. Sure, we all know families where one parent earns plenty enough for the other to stay at home and live in relative leisure, but many, many more find that committing to one income means prioritizing expenses and cutting back.
The Frugal Greenie - It’s almost impossible for anyone truly committed to “living green” to avoid being frugal. Precycling, eating less meat (according to this analysis that the water used to make one pound of beef is about as much as you taking a seven minute shower every day for a year), reusing and repurposing items when you can, saving energy in your home and transportation, shopping for furniture at thrift stores or using Freeecycle, using the library - all green, and all frugal.
The Frugal Teacher - If you’ve struggled with financial issues and want to teach your children better than you were taught, you would do well to teach them frugality. Spending within their means is a lesson that will reward them for the rest of their lives and is the basis for every other personal finance lesson they’ll ever learn. There’s no point to learning about investing if you have nothing to invest, right?
The Frugal Health Nut- If health is your motivation, being frugal in the sense of maintaining a healthy weight and fitness level can save you thousands of dollars down the road in the form of not having to have medication for life or rely on medications that may or may not always be covered by insurance. In the short term, moving more towards a plant-based diet may or may not be more expensive, depending on what you were eating, but the cost of food should be weighed against multiple doctor visits with copays and prescription costs. And, the sheer stress of financial burdens is bad for you health.
The Frugal “In The Moment”-er - OK, I couldn’t think of a good name for this one, but I’m thinking about mourning the loss of experiences because we are bound to a job that takes us away from where we want to be. The Frugal “In The Moment”-er probably umbrellas all of the above, but in the interest of adding a few more specific motivations that all relate to the value of accumulating money for a distant retirement or to living your life now (but not under crushing debt because “living now” means having a new flat screen HDTV that covers an entire wall - unless that’s seriously, really, truly your thing), could being a little more frugal free up some work time so that you could …
- Coach your kid’s sports team?
- Be able to pay for your kids to try a new sport or a musical instrument if they wanted? (OK, this weekend I met a nice lady who said that she just went back to work because her son plays hockey and the fee just to join the league was $4,000, plus $1,200 for his goalie uniform, plus who-knows-what for all of the travel … all I could say was, “Wow, you are really committed,” but what I think I meant was, “Wow, you should be committed.” To be fair, though, we spend a couple thousand a year on sports when it’s all tallied up and when my brother and I were children and swam pretty much year round, I’m sure my parents spent well more than that)
- Go to more (or any) of your child’s school events?
- Take that trip to see a place that you’ve dreamed about your whole life?
- Spend more (or any) time in your garden?
- Reconnect with your partner with some real time together instead of passing hello-goodbyes?
- Visit your extended family more often?
- Take dance lessons, learn a foreign language, go back to school?
- Any dream that fits into the “If only I had the money, I would _____________________”
What’s your motivation?